Epiphany

Someone I met in Summer 2006 during my travels in Central America who was unhappy in her marriage returned home and determined that a divorce was the answer. During her travels she had met someone new. She hadn't realized that life at home had gotten so dry. She felt that she could no longer continue in her marriage with the way that it had become. Earlier in the marriage there had been neglect and a betrayal of trust.

Of course, we can all understand how it feels to be "stuck". Then one day something happens and you come alive. It's so amazing. It certainly seems like that place or that person must be the reason. So we change everything to incorporate this new thing into our livves.

This person/place must be "it", after all, you didn't feel that way about anything up to that point.

But then...maybe, that person just happened to be there when all the obstacles were out of the way. You know, the obstacles we always have up. I don't like this, I don't want that. And then one day, someone is kind enough, smart enough, looks right, says the right things and bam!

What if we meet this person or find this place and now we can't have it? Is this a tragedy?

Well, here's a question. When you felt this euphoria where did you experience it?

For me, I feel everything in here. In me, in my heart.

So then, why do we only feel certain things for certain people?

Because we have needs and when those people who can fill that need does it for us, then we feel great.

But what if we didn't have any needs? How would we feel?

Would we feel great all the time?

If we removed the obstacles (preferences) could we just be happy all the time?

And if we were happy all time wouldn't every person, every place and every situation be special?

So maybe we should practice just being completely open and happy all the time? And then we wouldn't be dependent on someone or something else?